Meaning of Infidelity
What is infidelity:
Infidelity is the lack of fidelity that someone shows to something or someone, to a faith or a doctrine. The word, as such, comes from Latin infidelity, infidelĭtātis.
Infidelity implies lack of constancy or firmness, either in affections, ideas, obligations or commitments.
We can speak, for example, of infidelity in love relationships when one of the two involved breaks the exclusive commitment of the couple, established by mutual agreement (informally) or by marriage (formally), by maintaining a relationship with a person external to the partner occasionally or continuously.
Being unfaithful to the couple, then, means breaking the affective pact on which the couple's relationship is based, and is considered a serious fault; accused of treason, disloyalty, deceit and even humiliation. The opposite of infidelity is fidelity.
See also Loyalty.
Infidelity is a cultural convention that is established based on a set of values and beliefs that define what is considered "unfaithful behavior" in a society, and that can even vary depending on whether the person doing it is a man or a woman. woman.
In Western culture, generally governed by a Judeo-Christian value scheme, monogamous behavior is established as normal, outside of which infidelity would be incurred.
In Eastern cultures, however, such as Islamic or some African cultures, polygamy is allowed for men, so that the fact of having several wives is admitted by society and is consent by the other wives.
In any case, in our culture, infidelity is considered a violation of the very foundations of the love or conjugal relationship. It is considered that it violates the institution of the family, and it is an openly repudiated fact, which is why infidelity is always tried to be kept secret.
Infidelity can occur, fundamentally, in two ways:
- Sexual infidelity, which is based on physical attraction and sexual intercourse, and
- Emotional infidelity, where feelings are involved, but sexual contact does not necessarily occur.
The causes of infidelity are varied. They can be related to sexual dissatisfaction, boredom, need to experience new emotions, search for novelty, narcissism, revenge, falling out of love, emotional dissatisfaction, communication problems with the partner, in response to a crisis, etc.
Infidelity is one of the main causes of divorce in our contemporary societies. It can have devastating emotional and psychological consequences for the people involved, especially those who have been the victim of deception.
See also Divorce and Infidelity.
It should also be noted that infidelity can occur in different areas of life, not only in the love plane, but also in the moral commitment that is professed towards a religious belief, such as Catholicism or Islam.
Infidelity according to the Bible
Infidelity, called in the Bible as adultery, is that act in which a man or a woman has relationships with a person other than the one with whom they are married.
The Bible presents it as a shameful act, which forces one to hide: "The eye of the adulterer waits for nightfall, saying: 'No eye will see me, and disguises his face'" (Job, 24: 15).
The Bible condemns infidelity when in Levitical (18: 20-22) expressly says that sleeping with someone other than your spouse is an abomination in the eyes of God.
And he warns of the punishment imposed on the adulterer in the law that the Lord gave to the people of Israel: “For whoever does any of these abominations, those who do them, will be cut off from among his people (Levitical, 18: 29)
Infidelity, therefore, supposes, from the point of view of the Christian religion, a breaking of the promise that has been made before God at the time of contracting marriage.